June 22nd, a day that forever changed my life. Today is my son Carter’s 7th birthday. I’ve wanted to slow down time so I could experience each moment with him over and over again. Inside I have a sinking suspicion that I will blink my eyes and he will be a teenager, a young man, and then a father.
As his mom I wanted to give him some words of encouragement, words of love and words of wisdom. As I was writing these down I began to think that just maybe there is a lesson or two in her for all of us….
Always, always, always choose kindness. Others will make fun and be downright mean but I am asking you to choose kindness because the world needs more of it. Be Christ like and shine his light on others.
Make friends. You will always have your family, but friends are the family you choose.
Treat women with respect. We live in a world where many say chivalry is dead. Hold the door for the girl entering behind you. Say Yes Ma’am and offer your jacket when she shivers.
Play and Work hard. This life is supposed to be joyful and fun. Find time to daydream, travel, adopt hobbies, and play sports. It’s good to be competitive and to want to win. Just make sure that if and when you lose, you lose with dignity and show good sportsmanship. Nobody likes a sore loser.
Laugh as much and as often as possible. There is so much sadness unfolding in this world every day. It can weigh on your heart. It’s okay to cry over tragedies big and small.
Learn to fix things. Whether it be a flat tire for a friend or a broken toy, the world needs more fixers. Be crafty. Just like your daddy. Also be a fixer when it comes to people issues. There is no fight so big that an apology won’t fix it.
And say you are sorry. You come from a long line of stubborn people (blame it on me). Saying sorry will help you to sleep better at night. A clear conscience is everything.
Have good hygiene and Take care of yourself. You only get one body, one mind, and one heart in this life and you owe it to yourself and God to treat it with respect.
Believe in God. There will be science and statistics that try to prove he doesn’t exist, but I am telling you he does. Believing in God gives you a foundation that is based in His word and in goodness. I’ve prayed for you every night of the last seven years. Good and bad will unfold in your life and I hope that you see God’s hand in all of it.
Son, my love for you knows no bounds. Please always tell me things. Ask me things. And know that you will find no judgement from me. You may disappoint me with the choices you make, but we will say sorry and move on. The day you were born was the second best day of my life, first was marring your dad. I will never forget it. Thank you God for allowing me to be Carter’s mom and allowing me the kind of love only a mama’s boy can give. I Love always baby boy, Mom-
1 Corinthians 13:4-8~ 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.8 Love never fails.
Tonia~ Co-Host on your Family Friendly Morning Show