Just this past week I had the opportunity to teach my son’s Kindergarten class about “Love”. While I was preparing the lesson for 5-7 yr olds I couldn’t help but think as a parent what am I teaching my son about love at home. Do I represent what I’m teaching? Do you think your kid(s) will grow up polite because you force them to say “Thank you”? No, our kids will mirror what we do, how we say it and how we react. Here’s a few things I’m doing or getting better at doing to show my family that I love them.
My love language is “Quality Time”, so I attempt to show my son and husband how important they are to me by spending time with them. We’re parents; I get how busy we are. We come home from work, church activities, community events and group meeting with our heads spinning. It’s hard to disconnect. But as soon as you meet up after time apart, take a moment to get face-to-face with your child, kiss your spouse and connect with your eyes. Smile, tell them you love them, and ask them how their day was. Your attention, with your eyes on their eyes with softness and love, shows them how important they are more effectively than any words of affirmation you could offer. And put down that phone. It’s hard but try. I want my son to learn how to listen effectively and with a whole heart, and when I’m on my phone or distracted, I’m not teaching him that skill. So much of love is about truly listening. It’s a gift.
One thing that I’ve been doing with my son is to ask him “How do we treat others”? His response “the way we want to be treated”. Then I ask “With what” – his response “Respect and Gratitude”. Now trust you me we struggle from time to time, he’s 6 but I continue to ask the question as I teach him how he could have responded differently… maybe by High School he’ll get it.
With Valentine’s Day this Sunday I leave you with one of my favorite passages of scripture 1 Corinthians 13:4-8~ 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
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