This is Not What I Signed Up For:
I realize most job descriptions are not all-encompassing when it comes to the duties required. I am also aware that in the course of our lives: most of us will bury our parents, a few of us will bury a child and half of us will bury a spouse. The intersection of these two roads is where I found myself today. As the sun warmed my back, I wondered who would warm the heart of the widow. Would the fatherless children be able to again enjoy next summers grass beneath their feet? As the gentle breeze accompanied the leaves to the ground and the aroma of fresh-cut flowers filled the air, we rejoiced in the fact that unlike the leaf and the flower, the life of our friend is just as vivid and fragrant.
When you hire a new employee, you envision a long-term partnership.  You make every effort to ensure a good fit.  As that relationship develops, you wonder how you will adjust when one of you retires or moves to a higher calling in the ministry of occupation.  For some reason, you never stop to think that companionship will find its’ premature exit in death. From my side of things, a desk sits empty and a voice of encouragement is lost in silence. More importantly, a companion in ministry, a fellow soldier in the trenches, a friend… has found greener pasture to execute his talents. Not because of corporate downsizing, layoffs or some sort of dark dismissal. Instead, one who always desired to use his gifts for God’s glory, now stands within arms’ length of such.
Life’s not fair…but, you know, if it were – we wouldn’t have a chance of making heaven. The same seeming unfairness that brought me to this cemetery is the same unfairness that will reunite us one day. In this I find hope and faith to move on despite the hurt that lingers.
I never envisioned a week like this. Good thing – nobody would have taken the job…reckon it’s part of the learning curve of life.
C’mon God, do the lessons on compassion always have to be this tough?
Wally Decker

Wally Decker

Married my high school sweetheart (Diane) in 1987. She teaches kindergarten. We attend, fellowship and serve at Faith Missionary Alliance Church of Midway. We have three children: Tyler (20), Brianna (17) and Bradley (14) Obviously most of my free time (what’s that?) is divided between family, church and community activities. Got into radio at age 15…have been part of the WBFJ team since 1983.

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Wally Decker

Married my high school sweetheart (Diane) in 1987. She teaches kindergarten. We attend, fellowship and serve at Faith Missionary Alliance Church of Midway. We have three children: Tyler (20), Brianna (17) and Bradley (14) Obviously most of my free time (what’s that?) is divided between family, church and community activities. Got into radio at age 15…have been part of the WBFJ team since 1983. MON-FRI 1P-3P, SUN 6A-10A wdecker@wbfj.fm


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    Lovely sharing of heartfelt emotions. From a child who was fatherless at 13, yes, they will again enjoy the green grass of summers, but with a greater appreciation for the people God has placed in their lives. From the daughter of a widow, yes, she will again experience laughter and joy, as she sees her husband's smile cross the faces of their children. Life will never be the same again, the new normal will never be what once was. But with the Holy Spirit to comfort us, the Father's arms to hold us, the love of our Savior to blanket us and fellow travelers to walk with us… we continue this journey until we reach heaven's shores.

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